--- title: "Wedding Ceremony in Bern and Switzerland | Bagtun" description: "Your wedding ceremony with Timo Schaffeld: written for you, free of templates and possible in five languages. Let's talk about your love." url: https://bagtun.ch/en/ceremonies/wedding/ lang: en --- # Your wedding ceremony For two people who know what becomes possible. A ceremony that sounds the way this moment feels. Imagine knowing what your partner is thinking, because you truly know each other. Laughing together like children, simply because it is fun. Imagine each of you living your strengths while your weaknesses are held, without a word being said. Supporting each other towards a shared goal, because it feels right. That is a sweet fruit. The alchemists called it the Chymical Wedding: the union of two opposites to become something new together. Conjunctio oppositorum. Two people who have found each other. Who give each other space and at the same time take the reins, to become more of themselves. So that each finds their voice in the world. Together. Side by side and for each other. > Because the yes is only the beginning. ## How your ceremony comes together Of course I ask you what your dream wedding looks like. And I also ask what you have to say to each other. That is how I find the words that make this moment sound the way it feels. 1. **The first conversation.** We get to know each other, and you find out whether it fits. Questions are answered free of charge. 2. **Your story.** I listen: how you found each other, what carries you, what you have planned. You both also receive my questions. 3. **Your words.** I write the ceremony for you, with suggestions, ideas and rituals that mean something to you. 4. **Your day.** I hold the space so that you and your guests can simply be there. ## Why I ask you about potatoes Before I write, you both answer my questions. Some are serious: What is the bravest thing you have ever done? What are you most grateful for? And some sound like this: If you were a potato, how would you like to be cooked? If animals could talk, which one would be the rudest? Nobody can prepare for the second kind. That is exactly where it shows who you are and what you laugh about together. And sometimes a couple says: We don't have any big passions. Then I listen more closely, because the passion is usually hidden in everyday life. Finally I ask you to describe a happy day 25 years from now. It often becomes the end of the speech. ## Rituals everyone can share A ritual does not have to be big. It has to mean something to you. This is what it can look like: - **Your hands.** You stand facing each other, and I speak about the hands you are holding: what they promise today and what they will still do. - **The handshake.** Whoever wants to squeezes the hand of the person next to them and so shares what is there, without a word. - **The rings under the chairs.** Two guests discover the rings under their seats and bring them to the front. Nobody knew beforehand who it would be. That is trust. - **Stones for a tree.** Every guest gives a small stone their wishes. Afterwards the stones become the foundation for a tree you plant. - **The guests' promise.** It is not only you who say yes. Your family and friends also promise to accompany you on your way. More ideas are in the notes under [Rituals for your wedding ceremony](https://bagtun.ch/en/notes/wedding-ceremony-rituals/). ## What is possible There are no requirements for a wedding ceremony. The place, the length, the language and the rituals belong to you: by the lake, in the garden, in a barn or on a mountain. What matters most is a good feeling and that everything in the ceremony means something to you. The ceremony can be held in German, English, Spanish, Dutch or Italian, also mixed for families from several countries. ## What applies legally In Switzerland only the civil wedding at the civil registry office makes a marriage legally valid. The wedding ceremony follows afterwards and is the moment you say yes in front of the people who matter to you. More in the guide [Wedding ceremony in Switzerland](https://bagtun.ch/en/notes/wedding-ceremony-switzerland/). ## Hello, my name is Timo [Watch the film](https://bagtun.ch/assets/film/timo-schaffeld-vorstellung.mp4) Hello, my name is Timo, and if in the near future you want to celebrate a beautiful wedding with charm, wit, depth and romance, then I am your man. We meet, get to know each other and find out whether the chemistry is right. If it is, it will be easy for me to make every heart beat faster at your wedding. Get ready for big emotions, unforgettable moments and big laughs too. As always, of course, in German, in Español, in English or in Italiano. I look forward to meeting you soon, and until then I wish you all the best.